Dificil Therapy

View of Human Nature

 Problem do not exist in the nature but in the minds of people. Dificil is a spanish word means problem. People are the one who thinks and creates of the problem in their mind. They are only using the nature to find the reason why there problem exist. They blame the nature for the existence of the problem without knowing that problem cannot just exist because problem itself wants to exist. Human create their problems and therefore they become afraid that they are the reason behind the existence of the problem. So the tendency, they find something that they can blame for. Some people will say that they are not angry with the person but the situation rather. But who is the one that creates the situation? Isn't the person too? Therefore the situation that the people hates is actually the situation that is being created by human. And it is actually the situation that an individual thinks of the problem.

Development of Maladaptive Behavior

     When people experience a lot of problem, they find ways to escape or to have excuses in what they are experiencing. Some people learn to face their own problem by their motives and drives. But not all can do this. Some that cannot cope up with their problems leads them to become depress and some gain anxiety. Some of them use defense mechanisms for them to escape or to deal with the problems. To control the situation, sometimes they replaces the object of an impulse with a substitute object. If this failed, it leads to another circumstances that may cause to an individual to become frustrated.And thus it leads to distortions of self-concept. Therefore, maladaptive behavior results when persons cannot control the situation of the problem or cannot escape or even cope up with the problem. The more that they cannot adapt with the problem, the more they will become frustrated and it tempted to distort their self-concept. 

Function of the Therapist

     Since the focus of the therapy is rooted by the problem which is being created in the mind of people and not by the nature. The major task of the therapy is to provide a climate of safety and trust to encourage the client their self actualization. about the problem. The therapist should make the client realized that no one but him/her should make the solution about the problem and not the nature that he/she knows. Therapist can also consider the aspect that the problem may not have the solution but should be accepted by the client. Client should be teach to accept and embrace the private events and especially previously unwanted ones to control their thoughts, feelings and sensations including the memories. In this way, if therapist could make the client realized that problem exist because of what he/she thinks and should be resolve by himself thus self concept may regenerate. In some instances,therapist can also give advice on what the client should do to control the situation.

Goals of Therapy

     Strengthening the client to control and handle the problem is the goal of the therapy. To build a personality that has the strength to face the problem. This therapy helps the individual get in contact with a transcendent sense of self known as self-as-context. The you that is always there observing and experiencing yet distinct from one's thoughts, feelings, sensations and memories. It aims to help individual to clarify their personal values and to take action on them, bringing more vitality and meaning to their life in the process  increasing their psychological flexibility. Thus they can easily cope up with the problem if it happens. As a result, they will take some action or solutions that will lead to them to resolve it on their own. This therapy make the client to become more realistic to the situation to help resolve or to find solution. It changes the thoughts, feelings   and sensations of the client to more realistic views and to achieve the autonomy where they should be the one who is responsible on their actions and taking control of their life.

Major methods and Techniques

     To confront the client is one of the methodof this therapy. Confrontation is necessary for the client torealize the situatin withinthe problem. It seeks to produce the client's autonomy. Inthis part, attachment between the client and therapist should be involve for the client to build the trust among the therapist. As this happens, the therapist can advice or make some actualization for the client's benefit. Free association is also one of the method where the client is allow to say anything and everything that will come to his/her mind, no matter how it is that leads to the arousal of deeper unconscious. Asking questions is also another thing. Client where actually ask several questions that will definitely make him think and realized that his problem is caused by him. In relevance with this is asking the what if questions. placing yourself to the foot of others. In that way,the client may have the self realization and therefore can easily understand what would be the cause of the problem.

Application

     A 18-year old boy named John has a friend named Jake. One time, John got a low grade in exam while Jake got a high grade in exam. John's father get angry with John because he got a low grade while his friend Jake is actually high. John get mad to Jake for he is higher than him. He was blaming Jake for his failure and for the disappointment of his father. In the therapy, the child was ask of what is the reason of his failure and he points to his friends name. The therapist ask question that what if Jake is in his position, will he thinks of the same way? He answers no and he will realized that it was it's fault that he did not studied before the exam. He thinks of that maybehe is only having a defense mechanism that he don't want to blame himself for his failure. Now he realized that he's only making a problem between his friend even though it was all his fault.